Att: CD
As my sole reader, I direct this post to you. and only you. cuz i love having one frequent reader.
Why does G-d make life so hard for some pp?
Why can't someone buy me a car?
Why do aufrufs and shabbos kallahs exist?
Is there a specific purpose behind Jewish marriages?
Why do some pp have such a strong hold on life while others are completely... lost?
That's all for now.
I expect answers post weekend! After my Shabbos Kallah in yuhupitz.
Thanks.
posted by Lost @ 2:44 AM
8 comments
8 Comments:
Im not your sole reader, I know that for a fact.
1. People go off the derech because they cant find the right answer to that. However everyone has their own hardships. Every neshama has its own process of cleansing, and while its tough to see people suffer, we must believe that its for the best.
2. I often wonder that myself. At least assuming the girls get picked up on dates. Plus if you just flash your eyelashes youll get a ride somewhere. I need pepper spray tp get a ride.
3. aufrufs are awesome. I just came back from one. Its a way for the chosson and kallah to see and surround themselves with al the people that helped them reach this point in their lives, and the oppurtunity to show their hakaras Hatov, and cry. I love the crying. Though you didnt want an answer like that im sure.
4. Yes, its a way of sanctifying the union.
5. I have known people who are "rocks" and while i flounder away I wondor that. These "rocks" the went through some "lost" moments in time that I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy. I really think it goes back to Q#1 and ones outloook aon life and motivation to accomplish their goals.
the most widosm and the most strength i got was from the hell i went through.
(and cellar really isnt ure only reader.. maybe your wittiest tho! :)
CD -
RE:#1 - Can't wait to get up there and find out way. (emphasis on the latter half of that sentence)
#2- I need a car. To drive. I'll pick up the guy, I don't care!
#3- big shlep if it's not local - trust, my weekend was lovely, but I can't understand why there are so many gosh darn requisites for the newly engaged couple. We love this couple, and we buy multiple presents, flower decorations and chocolate platters to express our love. I guess I've never experienced the crying, once I've reached that milestone i'm sure ill hold the same appreciation for 'em as you do.
#4 - Beyond that, is it a necessity to have kids, or is the mitzvah only the union?
#5 - So it all goes back to the Holy's master plan and we can't question it. Or some are just more equipped to deal than others.
Anon - I can appreciate that. I think. Is it that people develop better methods at handling all of it? Or emunah?
And thanks for the comments, in truth I was being a teensy bit facetious. :)
Like duh, but I think the key is to take you seriously. As for the kiddushin thing, a man has a mitzva to have kids but a woman does not.
i can tell you that from my 'suffering' ive learned that- i can handle a lot more than i realized, im adaptable and have control over how i handle situations (ie: im not a victim), and a lot of what goes on is not in my hands, but that doesnt change the fact that im in charge of how i feel and react to it. and thats incredibly empowering.
re: marriage - i struggled with this for a long time, and i think ive come to the conclusion that the reason we need to get married is because g-d created us in a way that we could only get SO far on our own but that together the whole we can create is much greater than the sum of parts we bring in. i know that many of the challenges ive had to deal with would have been handled a lot faster and a lot more painlessly had i had the help of a lifepartner.. i wonder how much more i could ave done, how much further i could have reached.
you can get around jumping on one leg.. but ull never be able to run and skip and achieve the way you can on two legs.
and i know the questions were address to CD .. oh well :)
Cellar Door isn't your only reader. =(
Heck, I'll take a stab at answering these questions:
1) See the book of Job.
2) Because they're pretty expensive. =/
3) For the same reason bachelor and bachelorette parties exist - to give brides and grooms one last hurrah as single people. Granted, the whole point is to celebrate the coming union, but it's a last chance to hang out with single friends before that awkward you're-married-I'm-not phase sets in.
4) There are many specific purposes behind Jewish marriages. For the parents, it's a way of ensuring the continuity of their genetic material in a way that's acceptable and pleasing. For the couple, it's a way to signify a union in a way that feels meaningful and powerful. For the close friends, it's a way of coming to accept that the couple is entering a new phase of life. For the rest of the guests, weddings tend to have better smörgåsbords than bar/bat mitzvahs.
5) A strong hold isn't always such a good thing if it is predicated on blind faith and a refusal to acknowledge questions that might shake that faith. Some of us are just more driven to question. This struggle is more difficult, but perhaps that's not a bad thing. That which is easiest is rarely that which is best.
-LT
And what am I?
Chopped liver????
Answers:
1- I'll ask Him next time we speak.
2-Would a matchbox car do?
3-To torture the still-single.
4- To fulfill your purpose in the world by finding your other half and reaching fulfillment with them.
5- Some people look outside themselves for for completion without realising that it comes from within and it was there all the time.
Chin up. You're stronger than you think.
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